I came to the realization today that I needed to make some changes in many things I pay attention to in the social media space. It was inspired by a couple of posts that helped me gain perspective on what is important in life. My family should be my shining light each day and the work I do to take care of them should never have anything that interferes or clouds that path.
Overall my experience in online networking I will have to say is positive. Unfortunately there have been a few worms in the apple over the past year or so that have tainted my experience. The conversation kind of goes like this:
I know what I am talking about!
I have numbers to prove it.
Your numbers are false.
I have more followers so nah!
I was marketing while you were playing with Legos
My opinion is by far superior to your opinion.
If you were in front of me right now, I would beat you over the head with my iPad!!
The comments above are a brief representation summary of some of the most useless banter I have ever seen. I have no problem with a bit of a debate. Those are healthy and can help both sides gain perspective on a subject. For the most part I do not see people willing to debate, they just want to beat someone up. They gather their gang together, hit the pavement with their Foursquare bandanas tied around their neck, gather their Google analytics bats, their chains with as many links as their Feedburner subscribers and it’s time for a turf war.
It’s ridiculous. I came to the realization that in my own Twitter stream and Google Reader that many of the posts that continue to be highlighted and promoted are rants and/or flat out opinions. Then there are the counter posts that highlight someone else’s post and how wrong they are and the story goes on and on. I was at a social media conference once where the poor speaker was heckled so badly he had to end his presentation early. Thankfully I continue to find gems of people each day who write with amazing passion and heart who will fill the void of those I need to remove. I feel better getting this off my chest even as I right it. It’s a real simple message. Remember what’s important and don’t waste your precious time bashing other people. Social media street gangs are what they are. Just because you know something it doesn’t mean you have to beat someone up in order to get them to do things your way. I am pretty sure there are much more social, socius and humane ways to deal with each other. My hat tip to those who go beyond themselves to be civil and show what is truly needed to succeed in life. I hope I can continue to follow your example.
This post was inspired by a couple of people who wrote some great thoughts from their hearts and based on what real life is about. Thanks to you both. You know who you are.
Written by Jonathan Saar